Denial, is to deny or reject a statment, act or a fact. The word denial comes from 3 different historical origins [Latin, Old French, and Middle English] between 1250 – 1300 AC. In Latin it is dēnegāre means [ de- “away”, & negare “refuse, or no”]. However, in real life Denial is an essential tool for people to defend them selves. Denial is such a powerful tool that it could be observed in childhood. A good example is for the child to deny that its favorite candy is gone, or finished. It would demand from the parents to get more, or to reveal more. In some cases children could be tough that a certain act such as angry, hate, or failure is a disastrous thing. Thus, as adults if faced with these feelings or situations, they will deny or even resent those feelings or the fact that they posses them.
It may not sound as an important mechanism to have. However, having it would save a lot of people from insanity. Why you say? In the first stages of Kubler-Ross model or the “5 stages of grief” is denial. When a person is given a shocking announcement from the losing of a close one to getting fired, or even the fact that you can’t buy a nice new shoes because you are financially unstable. The person first thought is to deny, reject the idea they lost someone, that they got fired, or even that they can’t afford a new shoes because they are so broke. They reject that this is happening to them, because it is hard to hold on to a painful truth. psychologically, it is possible that a person could stay in denial for months, years, or sometimes their whole life. Denial starts to engulf into them. They could become so attached to it that if faced with it they would label it with “personality”, “bad experience”, “bad luck”, or even “density”.
In the original “The Little Mermaid” story by Hans C. Andersen when she found out that the prince’s heart is not hers and that her sacrifice is forever lost she cries, just to find out that the water is coming from her eyes are “Tears”; a normal effect of crying. As she lived her whole life under the sea, crying was never associated with tears, not until she moved and got out of her environment. She denied that those are tears, as she did not know what they where and how to act upon it. What I’m trying to say is that we label, things as we see them, the human nature is build from experience and learning curves. Denial maybe embedded deep down in us without us knowing it. We may deny that we love someone, that we want to have kids, that we may want to work a desk job and not travel the world, or that we want to sleep at night with the lights on. But we reject these ideas because of previous experiences, childhood, or shock.
We may cry tears and see them, but if we could see our pain just like the little mermaids saw her tears would we change something?